I am thankful and grateful to God to be blessed with 42 years of marriage to my wonderful husband James. I am asked the question a lot. What is the secret to your marriage? My answer is always the same. It is no secret, James & Dorthula can not take the credit, we give all the credit and praise to Jesus. It is only because of “HIM” that we have been blessed and grace with 42 years of marriage.
Always doing our best of being mindful as a couple, just like anything else in life marriage takes a lot of commitment, investment of time and hard work in each other and to each other as husband and wife. What you put into your marriage is the results you will get in return in your marriage.
James & I do our best to ensure that we are doing these things each day, our faith, prayer and relationship with the Lord is on the top of our list, to love each other unconditionally, treat one another with respect “no matter what” and believe it or not, but it is true, we have never once said the (d)word to each other, you know the (d)word-divorce, that’s right in our 42 years of marriage we have never said the word divorce to one another, because we know how powerful words are and we do not ever want to speak this word over ourselves or our marriage.
Yes, just like any other marriage our marriage has gone through a lot that we had to come together and really seek the Lord on how to resolve our problems of ups and downs in our marriage for the better, and I really feel that this is one of the keys that we have used over the years, is always having the attitude that we would never give up and quit on each other or on our marriage, we have decided that quitting on each other and giving up on our marriage is not an option. In making the choice to always come back focus on the idea that nothing is worth destroying our marriage and the love and respect that we have for one another. Always acknowledging that only because of our relationship with the Lord, prayer and forgiveness is how we are able to be blessed with a godly marriage that enable us as a couple to keep falling in love with each other over and over again, we still go on dates together, yes even after 42 years of marriage, “we still go on dates”. We have recognized that we are blessed to have one another!!!
In spite of the ups and downs of life and everything that is going on all over the world. Making the choice to live the best life that we can as individuals as well as husband & wife. Being mindful and at purpose to aim high at having a healthy marriage with lots of fun, laughter and doing our best to just enjoy life, helps you as a couple to reap the benefits of reaching your goals of living a healthy “LIFESTYLE”!!!